I am not tall in stature but I am a bit intimidating when you meet me personally. I guess it is my manner, expression...I don't really know.
Well, something happened today that made me realize how I handle things differently than I use to.
I have recently moved(downsized) into an apartment. It is a luxury apartment that is above shops arranged to look like a town square. Well, construction isn't complete and there is a lot of it going on. I was trying to work but the music coming from down below was very loud. I tried to ignore it but it was actually defining! I went downstairs and approached the guy closest to the radio. I asked him if he could turn it down "please" and in his best broken English, he said okay.
Another guy was working nearby and began to shout in Spanish at me and make intimidating gestures with a tool he had in his hand. I ignored him and left. Less than 15 minutes went by and the music became even louder! I went down again and repeated myself in the same manner as before and the young man said okay again, and the same other guy really became angry and yelling and threatening. A couple of his buddies "held him back." Now just a few years ago I would have stomped the shit out of that poor lad and smashed that fucking radio, but this time I didn't. I took out my phone and called a friend at the police department. He showed up immediately. He questioned everyone asked for IDs. Then he called ICE. The whole bunch was picked up and carted away radio and all.
So I thought it would have been stupid to be arrested and pay a fine for a loud radio. I can easily take care of myself but that isn't the point. When we are young we act quickly without thought. That stupid guy that was mad at me is going to get deported just because he wanted to "show me up". So macho of him.
Later I got a knock on my door from the construction foreman. He asked me if I was going to press charges and why I call the cops in the first place (he wanted an excuse to yell at me). I told him "It's not my fault that you hire illegals because you don't want to pay taxes on wages. I called the cops because one of his crew threatened me for just asking them to turn down the music." He screamed at me that I was just prejudice. I told him he doesn't know what he is talking about and that if he bothered me again he would be talking to the police....another fight avoided.
Now, I don't back down from fights but I have decided that I am not going to jail (even if I am right) over some fucking dumbass just begging to get his macho ass kicked!
Years ago I would have indulged the bastard!
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What you need is self control and calmness. Stop using all this profanity, You should never have approached them, You should have called the police initially it was a dumb move on your part.
FIG DUMBASS!
No one should EVER take advice from you, and you should NEVER give advice! You are a pathetic excuse for a living being (you aren't human)!
1) I never used profanity talking with them!
2) I never raised my voice at them!
3) You don't just call the police dumbass, you ask people to turn down their loud music first!
You haven't got a bit of common sense, not a lick!
I have more self-control than you could even imagine. I am not a hysterical pussy like you!
FIG "What you need is self control and calmness. Stop using all this profanity, You should never have approached them, You should have called the police initially it was a dumb move on your part."
What a particularly stupid and patronising post. Tell me Billy, was it in your opinion as dumb as claiming murder is objectively immoral, but ok when your deity does it or encourages it?
Since God is sovereign he could do anything that he wants. My Deity has the right to take out anyone he so chooses so don`t you ever forget that. What I said was for us as Gods children we Don`t `have the right Except as fighting for the well being of our country. In a time of war, Or as part of the police force defending the public good.
@faith in god: My Deity has the right to take out anyone he so chooses so don`t you ever forget that.
That sounds like a threat. Your god and whose army?
God has supreme power over all here; No threat just recognizing Gods Sovereignty over all things. God works through people. And it is important that you anti-theist take heed here.
Cram it Billy. No one is interested in your pathetic preachings!
There is no fucking god!
not in your life anyway, But GOD is using me on this web forum to reach many atheist and non-believers. There is still hope and I will never give up talking about my GOD.
FiG, you wrote, “But GOD is using me on this web forum to reach many atheist and non-believers.”
Do you think your god chose wisely in using you to do this?
Hah! I love the question you asked to FiG, wonder if he will answer. I hope he does.
"Do you think your god chose wisely in using you to do this?"
epic Cyb, you made my day..
FIG, you'll just waste your time on convincing us to believe in your puny god, even your god is not so wise choosing you either..
see how lame it is to be afraid of eternal fire? so you just have to be a dog for your god...
God: "sit puppy FIG, roll..play dead...good boy..."
God: "try to disobey me and i'll fuck your life"..
FIG: (*tongues out, wiggles tail*) woof woof...
So FIG just how did your god tell you to specifically come to this website?
You are lying your ass off as usual!
Well I came to this website due to The almighty benevolent God leading me to try to speak to non-believers in a cordial way. Where I would share with them my experiences in the Christian walk.I like to dialogue with others I like arguments that seek after the truth in life. Unfortunately some like yourself haven`t been interested in constructive dialogue but ad Hominem attacks on my person.Just because I possess Christian attributes in the faith. Like love Patience kindness self control. Your intense anger has changed the course of this discussion completely, but not for the better because when there is all types of profanity and abusive language being said then it kind of takes away from the subject matter .By you using abusive language it shows your obstinate and not allowing the conversation to continue on in any rational manner. I am on my way to the eternal place so I HAVE REALLY NOTHING TO LOSE HERE, But you and others eternal security is at stake here .So I would reconsider your approach to my post and act accordingly.
@FIG
You think that your threats and proselytizing are in any way less of an obscenity? The fact is FIG you are uneducated, ignorant, offer nothing in the way of proof of ANY of your claims, are a complete hypocrite, have NO moral compass, have NO ethics, can't conduct yourself in a "cordial manner" and have been nothing but a JOKE since you have been here. I for one have enjoyed just verbally slapping you around and so have others.
You are a prime example of what the fuck is wrong with christianity, let alone that it is a myth.
There is no "eternal life", no fucking god, was never a Jesus, any virgin birth, no resurrection, no miracles, NOTHING!
You have NEVER in anyone's wildest dreams have ever shown patience, self-control, or common decency.
Your heroes are all criminal disgusting perverts! From pussy grabbing, adulterer, sexual predator TREASONOUS Trump, to the drunk driving lying bastard Craig, they are all the worst people in the world. Like them, you are a racist, a moron, an unAmerican.
So you can just cram your attempt at a lecture up your fucking ass!
@faith in god: And it is important that you anti-theist take heed here.
There you go again threatening people with violence from your enforcer in the sky. Look behind you, FIG. There's nobody there. I faced down your god half-a-century ago, and he just evaporated. Poof.
@FiG
I too will take on your imaginary "enforcer in the sky invisible man" whenever. No, not you, not other humans like you, your invisible sky fairy that is supposed to be all powerful.
I have had an open challenge to any "god" figure from any major religion to smite me down or by their supposedly unlimited power punish me in some way that does not involve sending human lackeys to fight for him while the supposed god hides in invisibility.
@FIG Re: "My Deity has the right to take out anyone he so chooses so don`t you ever forget that."
(Oh, I simply couldn't resist this one. *giggle*)
Hey, FIG, I have a question for you, if you don't mind. Ya see, over the years I stopped trying to even keep track of how many times somebody tried to kill me, or how many times I was involved in situations which - by all rights - SHOULD HAVE killed me. Basically, it simply became just another part of my day, so to speak. That being said, it seems to me that "your god" had countless opportunities to "take me out". I'm just curious, what is your opinion as to why your god spared me so many times?
Unless, of course, when you said "(god) has the right to take out anyone he chooses", you meant it as like taking out to dinner and/or a movie. In which case, I totally understand why I never got an invitation.
Edited by deleting the entire post and then re-typing it exactly the same as the original.
Jesus was protecting you God has a reason to let you continue living. You say that you were a law enforcement figure. You someday have to ask God and Thank him so very much and be grateful that he spared you. This is the perfect reason to acknowledge God and join to be a follower of his .Remember the jewish Passover how God spared his people .He did the same thing for you.
@FIG
"Remember the jewish Passover how God spared his people"
Yes he spared Jews.
Killed an awful lot of egyptian, foreign exiles and all the other children that were living in the neighborhood though.If you were a firstborn child in Egypt at the time you would have died as well, you idiot, being as you are not Jewish.
What an arsehole your god is.
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and just like that..
he stopped replying...ahahahah...
people here are smart cant you see that?, you can't trick them by just saying flowery shit..
or threaten them by saying "you're going to hell if you don't believe me.."
you only worsen it...
Welcome to being an ADULT. Here is a secret that most people do not know. Any time you have been angry; any time you get angry and scream and shout, there is one reason and one reason only for your behavior.
"YOU DID NOT GET WHAT YOU WANTED." Think about all the times you have been angry and ready to punch someone.
A child want's a cookie and mommy says "No." The child screams, yells and cries until mommy gives in or until it learns that screaming and yelling does not work. The child wants a cookie from a friend or younger sibling and the younger child or sibling says "No" the child will take it by force unless it is taught not to do so.
Yelling, screaming and fighting are our most basic and animal like responses. As we mature we learn new ways of coping with daily stress. Think about the times you get angry...
The woman in front of you at the supermarket is digging through her coin purse for pennies and you have a bus to catch as you wait behind her..... "You want her to hurry up." You don't get what you want.
The asshole in traffic cuts you off and flips you the bird. "How dare he disrespect you and cut into your lane." You want him to be more respectful. You want him to drive more carefully, You want to beat the hell out of him. You don't get what you want.
In every single case you have ever been angry it is only because you did not get what you wanted. Part of growing up is realizing that you can always ask for what you want but "BUT" you can not always have what you want.
You got lucky this time and you basically got what you wanted. But what would you have done if the police told you to quit bothering the people with the radio?
Here comes big secret number 2. YOU DO NOT GET TO CONTROL ME! You do not get to tell me what to do or change my behavior. Not even if you are nice about it. What you can do is control your own behavior. "YOU CAN ONLY CONTROL YOURSELF."
1. Anger comes from not getting what you want.
2. You can only control yourself.
Knowing these two facts will enable you to take full responsibility for the decisions you make. You can always punch someone out when you get angry. That is always a choice. Sometimes getting angry works but having anger as the default will cause you more problems than solutions. Imagine sitting there and screaming back at the guy with the tool until a neighbor called the police and then the police hauled you all away.
Knowing why you are angry (What you want.) Is extremely important in avoiding conflicts. Thinking around the anger to solutions other than yelling and fighting is what intelligent people do. It demonstrates maturity and intelligence. Some other solutions include, use your own set of headphones and listen to something you like. Use ear plugs (one of my favorites especially for neighborhood kids and afternoon napes). Going to a local coffee shop. Find the circuit breakers and cut off the power. Sneak down there at night and throw the radio out the window or cut the cord. Agree to buy them a beer if they keep it down. There are thousands of solutions and the only thing limiting you is your imagination.
I once had a neighbor that complained about my computer making noise during the night. It turned out that their bed was right against the wall where my computer was. Not wanting to rearrange my room, I told them that I would promise to turn down my computer and use my headphones if they would move their bed to another location. I then offered them $100 to move the bed. They agreed and I never used headphones or turned down the computer. Problem solved. The solution worked out great for both of us.
Knowing that anger comes from "Not Getting What You Want" and understanding that you can "Only Control Yourself" are massive life lessons that will serve you well in years to come.
@Cognostic
What a big bag of wind!
I called the police because I KNEW what the fuck I was doing. I asked them to turn down the music. I called them because they reacted by threatening me. I knew what would happen. I don't need a fucking lecture from you.
I think before I act, unlike most people.
Feeling a bit peeved? Obviously you are not as mature as you imagine. Same old stuff cropping up? Did you not get the "Hurrah" you expected? Ha ha ha ha ,,,, Yea, you were a big man and forced them to do what you wanted. Wow! You are really changing from the way you used to be. You are a big boy now!
What a manly man you are!
You're a pompous fool Cog and not worthy of my time!
More issues with not getting what you want? Having trouble with anger issues still? You could always try reading the previous post again or simply focus on maturing. After all, only some people change over time. The rest of you remain angry and petty.
The precursors and causes of anger in adult humans must be vast, it seems a massive oversimplification to assert it is 'not getting what you want'. Such instincts have long evolutionary precursors and are deeply ingrained. Even when we control our reaction to such emotions it isn't always possible to avoid or completely control the emotions themselves. I'd say they were an innate part of what makes us human.
Don't mind Cog Sheldon. His nose is bent out of shape because he is hardcore conservaturd and resents that I don't agree with him. He just wants a chance to "lecture" me. This thread is about how we all change with age not about "me" personally!
I am 52 now myself, and as you say I am a very different person from the man I was 30 years ago, or even 20. I think it'd be sad if we never changed our whole lives, as if we had learned nothing.
It sounds like your behavior was very restrained. You can't easily block out noise pollution. I'll put up with hammering and sawing during construction, but loud music is just additional noise for no reason. I also see it as a kind of disrespect. I feel the same about smoking.
If the idiots were working illegally, they and their boss should have had the sense to keep their heads down and avoid annoying people. Instead the moron went out of his way to cause disturbance and even threatened you. They got what they deserved.
I've had similar experiences. You'd think asking these louts to turn their stupid music down was the worst insult in the world. But try living near a church with bells. Those bastards are the worst offenders ever.
I agree, noise pollution can be deeply pernicious. I have worked in factories all over the world all my adult life, and noise pollution can also be insidious and have lasting or even permanent effects. One of the most annoying things is someone playing their music at full volume in their car on a lovely summers day with all the windows open, without any consideration for others.
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