Any other ex-Christians really upset with themselves for forfeiting sex during their time of faith? When I've dated girls (some for a very long period time) there were many times I could have had sex...but we would always try our best to avoid it. There are distinct memories I have of Christians girls I date where we would do as much as possible without having sex...I even remember one girl and I got a hotel room on a Christian college's campus just so we could push boundaries...and we nearly did the deed. Funny stuff...and very silly looking back in retrospect.
Not sure why I'm so mad at myself. The past is the past. But it is odd that I'm still a virgin only despite having so many opportunities in highschool and college for sex. I blame my past ritualistic avoidances of sex for damaging me too. Anyways, just looking to hear your thoughts on this subject.
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My experience as a Christian was opposite. Furthermore, as an atheist, I find the Christian girls are much more interested in me. It's a bit like they are being bad by just talking to me. In fact, I need an atheist girlfriend who can see through my bullshit and call me out on it. I am sure that would be a very good thing for me.
They’re probably interested in you because they want to “save your soul”- that is, if they know you’re an atheist.
And when they can not define it, I define it for them and tell them how to get the evil demon out of my body.
That guilt is just the vestiges of the shame-based sexual education that you were given as a child when you were religious. I’m sorry, but odds are that will take a very long time to go away. Personally, I never received such “education” back when when I was a Christian. Shame and guilt can leave a lasting imprint on one’s mind...
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Oh... memories, sweet memories... and at this stage, just fucking memories....
The only thing I can tell you is that, as an ex-Christian, I didn't forfeit anything (LOL).... and I don't regret anything! (*a devilish grin on my face appears from nowhere*)
So take the advice from old Bad Santa, don't be mad at yourself, the past IS in the past, fuck it.... it is the rest of your life or whatever is left of it that matters. We've all been given a finite time in this beautiful Universe, use it wisely and enjoy it, it's the only chance you get.
So, go out there and give some other beautiful human beings some lovin'... if you know what I mean (*winking with my one bad eye*). Oh... and don't mention what I said here to Mrs. Santa, I'll end up in a reindeer house... again... and it's a shit hole of a house I tell you...
There is nothing wrong with staying a virgin. Both me wife and I were virgins when we got married and we were both life long atheists at that time.
rmfr
@arakish: There is nothing wrong with staying a virgin.
Very true. There can only be one first time, and that was something I wanted to share with someone very special.
I don't know how Christians can do it at all. The thought of god, Jesus, Mary, the Holy Ghost, the angels, and a bunch of dead relatives looking down through the ceiling must be a real passion-killer for them.
Thank you to you and Arabee.
I don't see any of the other posts talking a bit about taking responsibility or considering consequences, just that they missed out on 5 minutes of fun. The girls are just objects that were created for their amusement.
And I would still be a virgin today if it were not for all the women throwing themselves at me during the 70s.
I too, was indoctrinated into being ashamed of sex. My deconversion was a long process, so I had reasoned out the shame and fear before deconversion was complete. At that time a coworker started making sexual advances. I obliged, word got out, and I got fired (I was her manager). Best decision my penis has ever made. I don't miss that job.
Hello World,
Buy yourself a sex robot.
I've got a used one for half price. It does not bark loud enough for me since Tin Man yanked its' plug out of the wall. Just doesn't sound like it is having fun any more. I'm thinking of getting one of those new models, SEXY BEASTS. I kinda like the kangaroo but I don't think kangaroos scream. (Go to 48 to skip the intro.)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ym-510qmehA
@Helloworld
Don't feel too bad, you can "fix" your virgin problem anytime you like, sounds like you have no trouble finding willing consensual sexual partners. While I am no fan of religion, you can thank your particular interpretation of your religion when you were younger for not getting a girl pregnant. Also there is nothing wrong with being a virgin eithir.
I had a few close calls as a teenager/young adult, and my life would be very very different (likely for the worse) if I became a dad in my teenage years. I was an idiot hormone driven teenager that given the opportunity, if I did not have a condom readily available, I still did the deed, (if my girlfriend at the time did not stop me, but she had her own raging hormones too!)
Find yourself a wonderful person to be your first sexual partner and enjoy, life is to short and finite to miss out on one of the best things in life, just have plenty of condoms on hand!
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It was nice hearing your perspectives. Except for the sex robot stuff. Gross.
@Hello World Re: "Except for the sex robot stuff. Gross."
HEY!!! I heard that!!!
@ Tin-Man Re: "HEY!!! I heard that!!!"
But your are not for sale. You belong to someone else...
rmfr