My older brother raised me after my parents passed away, so he's a lot like a father to me. He invited me to dinner. We had a great time. But on the car ride home he said he wanted me to go to college again. The only problem with that is I hate school. I never liked it, even as a young child I never wanted to go. I always thought up excuses as to why I couldn't go. At the same time though, I want my father figure to be proud of me, which, while I was going to school, he told me every day how proud he was, which made me really happy. But I felt like I was there more for him than I was for me. What should I do? Should I go to college at the expense of my own happiness? Or do I let my older brother down? I don't know what I should do. Do you have any advice for me?
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What about school do you dislike so much?!
What are your prospects for your future ?
Who's paying for college ?
Most importantly, What do YOU want to do ?
Hello Valencia,
My opinion on the matter is you should probably just talk to your brother, have a heart to heart conversation, and tell him pretty much what you said in your original post. I'm sure if he knew what kind of pressure that puts you under, and that you really want him to be proud of you, that he would be understanding. Sometimes the best thing to do is to just tell the other person how you really feel instead of keeping it all inside where no one really knows for sure how you're feeling. He probably has no idea of how unhappy you'd be if you did go back to school. Or maybe you already told him?
Either way I think you should do what you feel is right for yourself, not someone else. It would be great if everyone accepted us the way we are, accepted our choices, and forgave our mistakes. But unfortunately life isn't like that. The best thing you can do is to enjoy life as much as possible doing what you feel is right for you, and try not to be too hard on yourself if someone else isn't in agreement with your life choices.
Of course it's always easy to give advice on matters like this. But I've had the same issues with my own father and finally realized I can't worry about doing everything that would make him happy. It makes for an unhealthy relationship when you're always worried about that sort of thing.
Take care,
David
Dear Valencia Bence,
Go to college and it is nice place ,you will make new frnds, It will be helpful in your future. You may not understand the value of education today. But good education is a foundation for better life.
This is YOUR life, if you do not do what YOU would really like to, YOU'RE the one who will die with regrets. No matter how nice or wonderful your brother may be, he will neither share those regrets, or be able to alleviate you of them. It is YOUR life, YOU must live it in the way YOU see fit, as that is the ONLY way that YOU will be happy with it.
i know college is boring for you its not so interesting but try to found the positive part and interesting part of it ,like make friends change thoughts with other A minds ..and in the end believe it knowledge is priceless.
ValenciaBence
School is boring and frakly not as agood as one might think, however, it is a guidline for the starting of new experiences and things that maybe you don't evn know they exist yet.
one could say that instead of learning things on your own, you have a tutor that guide you in the process, corrects your mistakes etc..
So do not see school as an obligatory thing but as a way to improve your social status, to be like your brother.
One day when you have your own kids, you would want to have as much knowledge as possible to make it easier for them then it was for you.
Look at the sacrifices your brother had to make for you, think of you being in that position and what if you could improve those conditions from when you are still young.
It is indeed an investment for your family.
You can also think that one day you might be able to repay your brother in some way, and what better way would be to show him that you can not only stand on your two feet but thrive with a successful career.
nothing would make him more happy.
You will look back on your decision in some 10 years and say I am happy today for the sacrifices I did 10 years ago or not?
Valencia-Why are you here?????? Asking advice from strangers is really dumb. First of all you know nothing about anyone in this forum. Are they republican, democrats, socialists communists, child molesters, murderers, bank robbers, priests, or assholes. Are they atheists, agnostics, "creationists, Christians, Moslems, fanatics of any religion. Maybe they want to join ISIS or think they will go to paradise if they kill enough infidels. Worse than you asking for advice from anyone who may be a moron are "atheists" or theists in this forum who think they know you to really offer intelligent advice. You know more about you than anyone especially the know it all's in this forum. In fact don't take advice from me as I may be an idiot. If you ask some in Atheist Republic they will say to be wary of me as they really think I am an idiot. But I know I am an intelligent, perceptive, handsome, creative, interesting, happy, nice, lovely and empathic human being. God Bless ......................................................P.S. Some of the advice given to you from the "members" in this forum are so obvious "it" is silly. ... Especially Jeff---He thinks he "knows" things all the time.
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