The bible states "judge not lest ye be judged." A funny parable but a complete impossibility. Everyone judges....all the time. We make judgments for safety and opportunity. We size up people and situations. I defy anyone that says that they do not judge or even try not to judge.
"You can't judge a book by it's cover." That may be true, but people make a snap permanent judge based on appearance. Some studies say it takes less than a tenth of a second for a first and indelible impression.
http://www.psychologicalscience.org/index.php/publications/observer/2006...
People know that they are judged and adjust accordingly. In New York City have you ever wondered why so many people wear black? Black is intimidating. It's slimming. It's neutral and noncommittal. Black says "Hey I'm all business, I don't care about your nonsense, leave me alone, I'm too busy and I don't really care."
I find myself judging all the time. I try not to and actually feel guilty that I do, but I have learned to trust my instincts. Yes yes it is instinctive to judge.
https://livingvalues.wordpress.com/2010/08/12/it-is-human-nature-to-judge/
So in judging we must learn how to act or not act on our initial judgement.
I have heard people say "I reserve judgement", but they don't really. They may have to do an internal debate, but it's a debate of whether their initial judgement is correct.
The purpose for a "perp walk" is to gain a public judgement that favors prosecution.
Many of you remember the O.J. trial. This nation was split down the middle. Okay O.J. was actually guilty, but the public didn't weigh the evidence, they made snap judgments based on race, on fame and popularity of the accused, on the unlikability of Mark Furman and his apparent racism. They judged Marcia Clark on how she looked not how well she prosecuted the case.
Personally I wouldn't care if Sarah Palin was actually intelligent, was a liberal progressive social democrat. I still can't stand to hear her speak with that whinny squeaky irritating voice.
So who among you say you don't judge?
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Not me. I agree with you wholly. As you said, making split second judgements is how we decide what course of action we will take (as in judging the situation to see which course of action is appropriate) Doubting a judgement and not judging are two entirely different things. A lot of people don't seem to understand this difference.
Perhaps there's a difference between using judgement and being judgemental...
http://www.thefreedictionary.com/judgemental
According to one online definition...
having or displaying an overly critical point of view.
"I don't like to sound judgemental, but it was a big mistake"
“When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself” (Earl Nightingale)
As you say, we all make judgments, but intolerance and hasty conclusions should be avoided. Perhaps unnecessary judgments aren't helpful either. Our judgments alter with our understanding.
Absolutely correct. One of the links I provided discussing that very aspect.
I crack up when I see some one with a tattoo that says "Don't Judge Me!' or similar phrase. I come to the hasty conclusion that I am meeting someone that is dead set on serving time in a county jail because they don't like other people giving them advice and pointing out their character flaws.
I don't like tats nor do I like T-shirts that have sayings on them. I don't know why people choose that way to express themselves. They never can convey enough information with just a catch phrase.
I went through a phase when I had t-shirts made because I thought I was being clever. (BTW you can really only wear such a shirt once).
I had:
1) Yeah, I'm that guy GET OFF MY LAWN
2) I love my analyst...NOT THAT WAY!
3) Someone's watching you read my shirt.
4) I'm alone, stupid left.
5) What would God's dogdoo?
Then I came to the realization that wearing such a shirt isn't clever at all. It's like parking an expensive car in a way that takes up two spaces. It makes you a jerk because it's just drawing attention to yourself.
Tats are mostly for the same reason.
I know this whole comment is waaaaay off the subject but I had to get it off my chest.
Yea was thinking on buying one once, and then i realized that i probably never wear it for the reasons you pointed out.
Living in a country that has 98% of the population, catholic Christians, what the hell was I thinking.