Could anyone help me out? I really would like to talk to my christian sister her daughter an her husband in a serious matter to have them look at the evidence. I really don't wanna step on there toes but my niece is 16 an i don't think that she has ever realized why she goes to church. I just feel obligated to speak up an don't want her to have the feeling of fear cause her soul might burn forever if she doesn't fit what she has been trained to believe in her corner brain wash shop. I don't wanna blast in keeping it real an say that its all bull shit but its pretty hard not to none of that BS in the bible holds water i just wanna make her look at the evidence her self but is that disrespectful to ask her to question things like that? and does anyone one know how to even bring that up it aint like they preach to me but there always talking about some church stuff
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Wait until she asks. She might open with "why don't you come to church uncle Streetz" or even if you are discussing plans for a Sunday express a wish to come with you rather than go to church. If she doesn't ask, you will only upset everyone by forcing your view. When we fostered we had some kids come through that had church requirements noted, we took them until they indicated they had spoken to other kids and would rather do something else. We always said it was their parents wish but most were very happy to be relieved of the weekly browbeating.
Hey there, Streetz. Welcome to the site.
Nothing easy about your situation. While I totally understand your concern for your niece, there is definitely the potential for severe backlash if you were to just "blast in" and start throwing around your opinions. From my experience, most Christians absolutely hate having their faith questioned, and confronting them directly simply makes them dig in deeper and defend harder. As Old Man has said, it is usually better to wait until they ask. I know waiting for that opportunity can be tough sometimes. (And I know I am certainly not the most patient person in the world. lol) Meanwhile, though, spend that time forming your response(s) to her so that you will be ready when she finally asks. More importantly, do all you can to set the example so that she might notice the differences between your views and those of your brother-in-law and sister, and perhaps that could prompt her to question you about it. Something to consider, though: You are absolutely correct that you do not need to start off telling her how everything is a bunch of bullshit. That is probably the easiest way to have her close you out completely. I do not know how deep her religious beliefs are, but I would suggest that you stress to her that it is totally okay to question and seek clarification to things that may not make sense to her concerning the God/Christianity/the bible/etc. and let her know you are available to help her with any questions she might have. Be reasonable and logical, and then it will have to be up to her at that point to decide for herself. Come to think of it, should you ever get the chance whenever she approaches you about the subject, it might even be helpful if you log on and take her to a few discussions on this site. It will give her a chance to see multiple views from multiple people. I know it has definitely helped me since I have been on here. Hope this has been useful to you. See ya around in other discussions.
Streetz,
There are hundreds of passages in the Bible that say that it is BS so if you take it upon yourself to tell someone that it's BS then you need to be thoroughly familiar with the fairy tale yourself. As a teenager 99.9% of what your niece thinks she knows about the fairy tale is simply not true. I suppose you could easily cause her a lot of discomfort by destroying her delusion but why would you want to do that? It's her parents' responsibility and obligation to mentor her about life's issues, not your's unless they ask for your input. Since she's a minor you would be crossing an irrevocable line to interfere in this matter. Wait until she's older and asks for your opinion and viewpoint. Until then it's not your business so stay out of it or you will cause irreparable damage to your family relationships.
In the meantime get yourself up to speed.