Hello,
I'm a new atheist. I was Episcopalian. The church I went to was very small and everyone was very close to one another. I live an hour away from the closest atheist group.
I am also a transgender man living with my parents and I'm in my mid 40's. I don't make enough money to live on my own or with roommates. My mother is very narcissistic and controlling of me despite my age. I'm on a low dose of testosterone but still live as a female. It kills me that I can't live as who I am. My mother uses her words like knives to attack me. It's better to give into what she wants to avoid conflict.
I feel very alone and trapped.
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I would feel alone and trapped as well. Why are you still there? Why not move to a community that is more accepting of transgenders? You can't get a job and work or you won't get a job and work? I gotta say there is a real stigma attached to anyone 40 years old and living at home? There appears to be a big transgender community in Austin, Texas. I'm pretty sure San Diego has one as well. Why not go someplace where you will be appreciated for who you are? Why not be who you are?
You situation reminds me of someone burning themselves with cigarettes. "Ouch it hurts. Ouch it hurts! OUCH IT HURTS! Well then, stop doing it.
Have you watched Matt Dillahaunty on the Atheist Experience? They are atheists and huge supporters of the LGBT community.
G'day Suzz. I'm no authority on your problem and situation, but I watched a YouTube video that might help you. Here's the link :-
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a-eSCI0AA4I
At about the 1:03:00 mark, a transgender person rings in to the show with their problem, which gets discussed. As an atheist, I liked the entire video. You may or may not like to take a look.
Cheers,
Mutorc.
Hello Suzz, welcome to AR. You are not alone in here, and many people are sympathetic to your predicament.
I sincerely hope you find a resolution to your problems.
Don't be alone. Your family is there beside you always. https://yapp.kim/upsers/
https://ffile.me/bluestacks/
@Kasey Re: "Don't be alone. Your family is there beside you always."
If only that were true. Unfortunately, when it comes to the matter of religion, I have personally seen family members turn hostile toward members who do not "conform to their religious norm." Families have often turned their backs on other family members who managed to escape the clutches of religious dogma. Matter of fact, if you read the OP, that is almost exactly the problem Suzz is having, with Mommy making life a living hell because Suzz dares to be different. And if family is "always there for you", then why are so many people often afraid to tell their families they are atheist or gay or trans?
@Tin-Man
"If only that were true."
Indeed.
My dogmatic Catholic father never forgave any of his four children for rejecting the church and becoming atheists .We still spoke, but that elephant was always in the room .
Anecdotal evidence: I worked for Social security here for 25 years. Mostly worked with the unemployed, but also with [mainly Vietnamese] refugees and Homeless Youth. IE under 18. Learned very quickly that a happy child will not leave home. Without exception, each of the kids I saw had been subjected to some form of gross abuse.
Sadly, from personal experience, it is my opinion that the claim that "family is always there" is a myth.
Hey there, I'm trans too, welcome!
It's difficult to get out on your own but it's totally doable. Finding room mates isn't so hard, even if you might not get someonegreat right away. There might also be options where you can rent just a room in a home